My guest blogger for today is Gregory Nicholas Malouf, a successful Australian businessman and entrepreneur. He is the founder of Epsilon Healing Academy. The author of Silent, The Power of Silence, Gregory believes there is a way to consciously create the life you most desire. He states that we live in fear and anxiety and that drives our need for success, status and money.
Gregory lived his life hard and fast. He now seeks to share his experiences, as raw and as shocking as they are, in order to give others the courage to face their own truth and, in doing so, live the life they dream of.
If you are sitting in your comfortable home, with food in your fridge and a bed to sleep in, you may not think you are afraid of anything. But, dig a little deeper. Except for a rare few who have mastered their fear, it is fairly safe to say that we are all afraid of something.
What do you long for? More income and financial security? Better relationships or true love? An inspiring career? Perfect health and wellness? What stops you from achieving those things? The answer is FEAR.
Somewhere, some time you had a negative experience that stopped you from trusting yourself or others enough to move forward and go for what you truly desire. It may have happened when you were very young. It may have been experiences in your life, or a combination of numerous things. It might not even have been “earth-shattering,” but its emotional impact was significant.
Did someone you love cause you pain or hurt you some way that you would rather now forget? Did someone enforce the belief that people are separate, that in fact you are separate from others, feeding your belief that people aren’t trustworthy? Did someone discourage or intimidate you making you feel unimportant, unworthy or incapable?
We learn many lessons of fear early on and fear becomes the basis of the world we see. Fear prevents us from having authentic interactions with life and our relationships. Relationships that really can transform your life and the world you see!
When we experience fear, we either attack or defend because this is how we maintain our (false) sense of self. In order to be authentic,we must be vulnerable, but most often our ego-self takes over to protect us. It shields us from the things we fear and keeps us from facing them.
Ego gives us our sense of worth and our control over life. Without that control, we feel vulnerable to an unkind world. We’ve been taught to deny our feelings and put on a façade, telling ourselves that everything is okay. This may lead to addictions that further mask pain and discomfort instead of treating the primary cause of our unease or dis-ease. Being in an addictive state suppresses the real truth within us. Yet, hiding our truths perpetuates our fear and creates an unproductive cycle. Ultimately, what we project is not truth, but fear.
If we are all living this way, no wonder there is so much confusion and turmoil in our day-to-day lives and in the world around us. We react to life rather than acting responsibly within it. We try to control things outside ourselves when our self is all we can control. Our false perceptions are confirmed over and over, that others are out to take from us, hurt us in some way and are not to be trusted, and that we are unlovable or undeserving. Yet, nothing could be further from the truth!
The key to eliminating fear is to shift your focus from outside yourself to inside yourself. Try this simple exercise. Sit in a comfortable spot with no noise or distractions. Listen to the silence. Feel your body, your breath, your heartbeat. Feel the life in your silence and rest. Breathe slowly. Take as much time as you need. You deserve this.
Learning to take time apart for deep breathing, meditation, and quiet within is a must if we are going to recover our authenticity.