This will be my last blog until after August 8. I am leaving for another trip to Louisiana to be with my mother and my family, and as I usually do, I will unplug from the internet.
“This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.”Dalai Lama
“My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.” Dalai Lama
I do not follow any religion or belong to any church. Life is too big, god/goddess energy is too all-encompassing, and universal consciousness is too vast to put into one box defined by one belief. For some reason, humans seem to have the need to contain that which is bigger than all of us in a format of rules, dogma, and buildings.
My belief system is composed of many beliefs, ways of life, philosophies, and paths. Just because I do not believe in what many religions teach, I do honor every person’s right to the belief of their choice. To me, respecting others is part of the religion of kindness.
A cornerstone of my belief system is the conviction that all deserve to be treated with compassion and kindness. Letting others go in line before me, paying for someone’s meal or toll, smiling genuinely at the person who serves me in a restaurant, calling people to say “I’m thinking about you,” offering a boost up when someone falls, looking into the eyes of the person speaking to me so I can really hear and see what is being said, and not judging someone because of the color of their skin or their religious or political belief are some of the ways I have learned to practice kindness.
We are all made for kindness and love. We respond to warmth and a soft word. A gentle tone can calm a storm raging inside of someone. Sometimes I meet people within whom I can sense festering anger and resentment. Even these people, who are suffering within due to unresolved issues, even these folks need compassion. In fact, they may need bigger doses than most.
If we can remember to not take what others say or do personally, we can show kindness. I am learning that when someone says something ugly to me, it is not about me, it is totally about them and where they are. If I choose to take it personally, I replace my peace with anger and judgment, and in the end I lose. When I am present I remember to say, “Stop, this is not acceptable to me,” and walk away while blessing them and wishing them peace.
If we all chose to make kindness a large part of our belief and our life, we could watch the world transform as a result.